I Can't Control My Emotions!!!

Several years ago when my husband was the Senior pastor in Prattville, Alabama (War Eagle!!!~sorry just had to say it) I taught a womans Bible study from the book -Lies Women Believe and The Truth That Sets Them Free.

Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Author Nancy Leigh DeMoss suggests that the lies Christian women believe are the root of most of their struggles.  "Many women live under a cloud of personal guilt and condemnation," says DeMoss. "Many are in bondage to their past. Others are gripped by fear of rejection and a longing for approval. Still others are emotional prisoners."
In her book, Lies Women Believe, she exposes those areas of deception most commonly believed by Christian women - lies about God, sin, priorites, marriage and family, emotions, and more. She then sheds light on how we can be delivered from bondage and set free to walk in God's grace, forgiveness, and abundant life. She offers the most effective weapon to counter and overcome satan's deceptions - God's truth!!
You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free!  ~ John 8:32
I would have to say this book was probably one of the best that we used for Bible studies that the women felt really helped them in their personal lives.
One of the biggest lies that satan tries to tell women is ~ "I Can't Control My Emotions"
From her book she says, " The Enemy uses this lie to make us believe we have no choice but to be controlled by our emotions. While it may be true to some degree that we can't help the way we feel or think, the Truth is that we don't have to let our feelings run our lives. The Truth is, regardless of what emotions are whirling around inside , by God's grace, we can choose to fix our minds on Him and to trust and obey. When we do, we will experience His peace and the grace to be faithful, even though our circumstances may not change."
If you are anything like me, in all honesty you could probably spin the Emotional Wheel and any where that it stops would be an emotion that you have had at one time or another. One of my greatest emotions that I struggle with is FEAR!!! Fear of not doing something right, fear of not being the Godly mother I should be to my boys and their wives. Fear of how I look so I can always keep my husband happy. Fear of dying. I could go on and on about all the things I am fearful of, but I know that's not what God wants my mind and heart to dwell on. My life verse says it all for me ~ Fear not, (Becky) for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, Saying to you, 'Fear not, I will help you.' Isaiah 41:10,13
No matter what emotion you may be going through, the Bible is filled with God's promises that He can be your Helper, your Strength in time of need, He will never leave your side. He will walk with you through every circumstance and trial that comes your way or maybe that you are in right now.
I know you may feel like you are all alone and no one has ever gone through what you are going through or have felt, but trust me when I say, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!
I can tell you today with great confidence that God will never let you down. You are not alone. Don't be fearful, or worry. Don't feel like you are not loved or that you are not beautiful. Don't panic about anything or give in when you feel like no one can help you or you ask yourself, "God where are you, Why am I going through this?"
I love music and it has been amazing to see how during my deepest times of need, God will show Himself faithful to me through a song that He allows to come into my life right at the time I really need it. Let me share the words with you from a song by Meredith Andrews, You're Not Alone.

I search for love, when the night came, and it closed in, I was alone, But you found me, where I was hiding, and now I'll never be the same, It was the sweetest voice, That called my name saying
You're not alone, For I am here, Let me wipe away your every fear, My love I've never left your side, I have seen you through the darkest night, and I'm the one who's loved you all your life, ALL your life
You cry yourself to sleep, cause the hurt is real, and the pain cuts deep, all hope seems lost, with heartache your closest friend and everyone else long gone, You've had to face the music on your own, But there is a sweeter song that calls you home saying, You're not Alone
Faithful and true, Forever, Oh my love will carry you, You're not Alone, For I, I am here.....

My dear friend ~ Don't allow the evil one to make you think you can't control your emotions or allow him to have any control over your mind. Through Christ, take captive every thought and emotion you may be going through. I think for myself, this is so hard to do. It's an every day battle, but I know I feel at peace no matter what emotion or feeling I am going through, when I ask God to help me through it. He has never let me down and has always been there for me. Isaiah 26:3 ~ Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trustest in thee.
It's your choice!! You Can Control Your Emotions!!!! Let Go and Let God take complete control of your life.

LIFE - It's not about how you play the game ~ But how you Live it!!

As I was sitting watching TV the other night a commercial came on for the Honda CVR. I have seen this commercial several times before but never really paid attention to the words. They went something like this -"Life moves along pretty quick, if you don't stop and look around a little bit, you could miss it!"
I grabbed a piece of paper and a pen and wrote those words down. How true those words are and I guess I am really realizing that alot lately as I am getting older. This past fall was really and eye opener for me about how quickly life goes by. Both of our sons were married this past fall of 2011. WHAT!!! Are you kidding me??? How did that happen?? It seems just like yesterday they were those cute little boys following me around. I remember having people tell us, "Enjoy them while they are young, because before you know it, they will be all grown up and married". Where did time go? Now we are saying that to younger couples with young children.
Life ~ The game is alot of fun to play, but Life itself is hard and sometimes just doesn't seem fair. I can honestly say that life has been pretty good to me. I had a great childhood with very loving parents, married my husband Jack and had two wonderful sons. We had a lot of fun with our boys and even though we might not have been the perfect parents, we did our best to have quality time with them. Family time was very important to us, even though sometimes they didn't think so.
Life has been good to the Weight family but that's not saying that it hasn't been hard. We have had many ups and downs and still do, but with God's help we are trying to make the most of our life together as a family. As the saying goes, "Life is too short, enjoy every moment of it".
Twelve years ago this coming June I lost my mom to cancer, talk about life not being fair!!! She was only 76 years old. I felt like I didn't have enough time with her. She was such a wonderful mother and grandmother to our boys. She use to always say, "Live everyday like it could be your last". I am very grateful for how she lived her life and how she left that wonderful heritage to her whole family. Before she passed away my sister Trudy went and had my mom tell her many stories about her life and then put it in a small book for all of our family. I am so glad she was able to do that. I sometimes wish I had taken more time to sit with her and hear her tell those stories, but we lived so far away but I cherish every moment I had with her.
This year my father will be 91. He is such an amazing man and has been a wonderful father over many, many years. Jack and I are so thankful for his love and support that he has shown us time and time again. Almost 5 years ago he married my stepmom, Joyce. I truly believe after my mom died, he felt like his life was over. He was very lonely but God brought a wonderful Christian lady into his life and I just love her.
We now live back in our home state of Delaware and I am enjoying being so close to family. We live only 20 minutes to an hour away from the boys and their wives and we are going to enjoy living life together especially as our family grows!!!
The past couple of weeks I have been doing some Interior decorating with my husbands help at my dads. We went from one project to another but as of this past Monday, everything is complete. I had alot of fun doing everything but my greatest moment was sitting with my dad on Monday and just sitting and listening to him talk about life. His life when he first met my mom and then married her after my mom gave back his ring many times. His life as becoming a believer and how hard it was with my mom not having that relationship with God. He would go to church without her but then one day he came home and she told him that she asked Jesus to come into her life and their lives changed from that moment. As my dad continued with the story, he told me that our lives would be so different today if my mom never had that relationship with God.
They would have never left their home state of Michigan to go far away from their families to go to a Christian college in Delaware, which by the way was my moms idea for my dad to go to college. They had 3 young children at the time, Everett, Gary and my sister Trudy. They might not have had anymore children, which means Tim and my sister Debby and Me! wouldn't be here if my mom and dad didn't move to Delaware. I would have never met Jack and we wouldn't have Jack and Bryan which means they wouldn't have their wives and sooo many others would not have met their mates through the church or school and most importantly many would be lost and without Christ in their lives. God knew the plans He had for all of us starting from the time that both of my parents asked Jesus into their hearts.
 I have shared this story with you for a very important reason. I realized while I was sitting with my dad and listening to him tell many stories from the past until now that life is so short and what am I doing with it? What are you doing with it?
I want to cherish every moment that I can with my dad and stepmom. I want to spend everyday living life to the fullest with my husband. I want to enjoy my sons and their wives and future children and trust me, I can not wait to become a Nana!! I don't want to waste going through life without stopping and taking the time to be with the ones I love. Family is so important and sad to say, many of us today are too busy to take the time to spend that quaility time together. Don't let life pass you by, Live life to the Fullest with the ones you love!!! Don't have regrets or wait until it's too late to spend with your family.  We are all not promised tomorrow, so how are you living your life today?

Happy Valentine's Day or Not!!

Valentine's Day ~ if you are in that special relationship or married to your best friend can be such a romantic day. A day full of love and romance, with flowers, and chocolates, gifts and a dinner out or maybe a dinner  at home made especially for you. You can just feel the love in the air!!!! A day to show the one you love how special they are and how much they mean to you. If you are really lucky, maybe he or she will sing you a love song!!! Oh ~ So Romantic!!!!

Now, maybe if you are someone who is single or maybe you have lost your husband or wife, this day can be very DEPRESSING!!! and very Lonely. The last thing you want to see is couples arm and arm with each other looking so in love. This is the holiday you wish you could just sleep right through until the next day, or better yet, just take it off the calendar....

Or maybe this is you this year.... You and your sweetheart are going through a rough time. You feel like you are all alone or you just want him/her out of your life. As in the song written by Neil Diamond ~
"You don't bring me flowers, You don't sing me love songs, You hardly talk to me anymore, When you come thru the door".
You feel like your marriage is over. The romance is gone.... In the book, Rekindling the Romance by Dennis and Barbara Rainey they write ~ You started your marriage filled with passion, and the flame of romance burned brightly. But then came real life. Stress. The demands of work. Routine. Parenthood. Disappointment. Anger. Unfaithfulness. You even may have wondered if it was all a mistake.
Does this sound familiar?? If so, you're not alone. This pattern is nearly universal, common to millions of marriages - including our marriage (Dennis & Barbara) and ours too ~ Becky and Jack.
Your marriage is sure to reap the rewards from reading this book, I promise you. It has helped our marriage!! You can go on my Resource page and click on the link to order your copy of Rekindling the Romance.

My prayer is for everyone today to have a wonderful Valentine's Day with the one you love, even if you are all alone, you have your Heavenly Father who will be there to wrap His arms around you and love more than you could ever be loved. Remember, God loves us all with an everlasting love!!! How great is that!!!

Happy Valentine's Day!
Love you all!!!

HAPPINESS: Experiencing His Joy!

Happineness can be defined as a feeling of spiritual contentment that will carry you through the triumphs, pitfalls, or even heartaches of life with calm stability, serenity, peace of mind, and tranquility (Matt. 5:3-12). Happiness may or may not be related to the happenings in your life.  In many instances, the outward happenings in a life affect our attitudes. However, happiness is also an act of the will (Ps. 144:15). We all have things "happen" in our lives that give us reason to be unhappy, but we have the power through Christ to make our own response to those happenings. Happiness is a potential positive choice.
Jesus gives some characteristics that promote a response of happiness (meekness, righteousness, merciful, peacemakers; Matt. 5:8-11. A believer must concentrate not on doing, but on BEING and LIVING! Total commitment to the Lord will result in a believer's instinctive Christlike response to various happenings as they occur. You must appropriate the tools God has given (His Word and His indwelling Spirit) in order to pursue happiness (Prov.3:13; 29:18). Happiness is enjoying everything the Lord has given you and not fretting about the things that have been taken away or withheld. Happiness is trusting in God's sovereignty and omniscience. You must believe that in EVERY "happening" God will work for your good (Rom. 8:28). Happiness comes from daily obedience and faith in the Lord.

As I was reading Proverbs 16 in the Womans Study Bible the above instructional notes were given. I have realized that my greatest "Joy" comes from when I put all my trust in God to take care of me no matter what I am going through. You know the old saying, "If mamma ain't happy, no one is happy". You can find happiness and real joy in everything, even though it may seem like you can't, but with God you can. You determine your happiness!! Don't allow satan to steal your joy!! Your attitude determines everything, so determine to have joy, REAL JOY!!

Love you all!!